When you walk into a room, do you see someone who stands out from the crowd?
You may have not spoken to that person, but you watch as people are drawn to his or her positive energy.

The way you feel about yourself, as opposed to how you try to look, sends silent signals to others before a word is even uttered. It tells people how you want to be treated. This unseen dialogue, known as “sizing one another up,” reflects how you want people to treat you.

Without even realizing it sometimes, we sabotage new relationships by thinking negatively. Our self-doubt steals our potentially loaded brilliant ideas and partnerships before we even give them a chance to succeed.

The secret to success is learning from our experiences, good and bad.

You deserve success… try this:

Bring the best of yourself. There is no reason to inflate your self-image by trying to turn self-doubt into a strength by joking about your weaknesses or covering them up. Those ‘little jokes’ WILL hurt you in the long run and lowers your self-esteem. Your conviction to your goals – (TO YOUR LIFE) – and your confidence to ask for help is all people you meet really expect.

Have a positive internal self-talk. Avoid saying things like “It will be too much work” or “Someone else can do it better.” When you attempt something new, release your past failures and as you uncover any negative thoughts, acknowledge them and then release them. You can’t predict the future, so how do you know what you can and cannot accomplish? I can assure you of this… You can predict your current action.

Be your positive self. You don’t need anyone’s approval to achieve your dreams. Only you control the state of mind you want to live in.

Take action even if you are confused. Catch yourself when you are about to act from weakness. If you feel vulnerable, accept it as a natural part of being human. Embrace that vulnerability and allow yourself to feel free as a bird knowing that the wind will take you in its gentle course because you have chosen to live your fullest life… nothing holding you back… not even the fear of success. Remember that the “but what ifs” you place on the end of your thought processes will dampen your secret enthusiasm, even without you realizing it. Live in the moment and allow reality to throw obstacles your way, this in turn will give you the opportunity to resolve and discover the steps to overcome them.

Keep silent, then speak. When in conversation with others, conduct a quick internal check before speaking. Does the remark you are about to make empower or debilitate the conversation? If not, try this: keep silent. Silence is often stronger than words.

Recognize that you are in control. You may be able to blame others, the true courage is when you choose not to. Remember you are the master artist of your life, your existence is the magic spark that adds color to the canvass.

If there were two apples on the table… a rotten one and a fresh beautiful red apple… which one would you chose? So, why would you give anyone a rotten apple… be the best apple you can be!

Daisy Says: Become inspired by your hidden potential.

What is yet most amusing is that this game is being played every day and we are playing it whether we are aware of it or not. In this game we also (in most cases subconsciously) choose our partner partially based upon their abilities and skill at playing the games we know how to play.

“Flirting” can be placed in this category as one of the mind games we play, for the most part it is fun and satisfying and does no harm.

I don’t claim to be an expert of mind games and would not like to play any game where someone could get hurt, yet I do believe that one should be aware of the games that people do play because one could so easily get caught in the middle of a full blown game. Keep your eyes on the end zone and go for a touch down!

If you are going to play… try and learn the rules, tread with caution, give your opponent a few passes and always go for the home run!

Daisy Says: In the name of Peace and Love, Yes is the surrender when you let go.

Give others the best of you, do more of what you like and others will enjoy you at your best, others will sense this and be drawn to you.

Which brings me to the next point: Passion
Attractive qualities in people are often tied into passion. If your life has meaning and a purpose as opposed to simply allowing yourself to become a ‘floater’, it’s far more attractive to others.

Success is something you attract by becoming an attractive person. (Jim Rohn)

Adding to the attraction factor is your ability to improve your communication skills. You don’t need to be an extrovert. However, by sharing your passions with others yet, more importantly, being a good listener and showing a genuine interest in what others have to say, is a great way to be more attractive. Effective listening skills can never be underestimated when it comes to how to be a more attractive person. Remember, the only way to get what you want, is to help others get what they want. And since everyone wants to feel good, to feel important, and to be listened to, why not facilitate this by really listening when someone is talking, by being interested, by asking questions, and by talking about the things the other person wants to talk about.

Not only will they be more likely to be interested in what you have to say, but you might even learn something new in the process.

Finally, one can never say enough about having a Positive Outlook On Life
A smile costs nothing and will usually always brighten up someone’s day (even when things may not always be going your way)

Daisy Says: The energy you put out in life is the energy you get back.